How to be our authentic selves…
Myself and my group ‘Weird Sisters’ met last night… It’s a group of women who come together to explore spiritual and ethereal concepts and ideas once a month. Last night we worked on the idea of being more of our true selves and having the confidence to express ourselves fully.
When you think about acting from a place of and being your absolute authentic selves… Do you feel free and alive or do you feel contracted and afraid?
I’ve been exploring this concept a lot since the break up with my husband…In fact, we do shed old selves several times throughout our lives. Usually following a big break up or the loss of a loved one and the birth of a new one! I reckon I’ve had a few past selves…!
It was interesting to listen to some of the women in the room, and some of them said about how they often suppressed their creative urges to fit in with the opinions of others. Living up to other peoples expectations.
Often as children, and as women we are expected to be good. We let our lives play out allowing the expectations of others to rule our navigation. We revert to living our lives in other peoples value systems. This doesn’t serve us and never will. Of course, we have to live with some kind of filter, as we would never fit in otherwise and that could be a lonely place too…
Some questions for us:
What are our core values?
Are we operating from them?
Are we running away from them?
What would I do if I didn’t care what anyone else thought of me?
And here are some ideas:
- Worry less about our perceived image
- Be more of the real me
- Be wild and free
- Say yes and no more
- Give more compliments
- Swear more
- Be more playful and cheeky and let our laughter out
- Have more courage and confidence in our voice and values
- Prioritise our wellbeing – yes – even above your family sometimes
Telling our truth is not easy, but it does get easier with practice.
At a fashion show recently, Helen Mirren said, she wishes she’d have told people to fuck off more… “We were sort of brought up to be polite and sometimes politeness, in certain circumstances, is not what’s required,” she said. “You’ve got to have the courage to stand up for yourself occasionally when it’s needed.”
And I love this – our generation can say no more and more with conviction and staying true to our real selves…
Let your truth and inspiration lead you, step into your power ladies… I’ll leave you with a quote from Katherine Hepburn.. ‘If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun..’
Have a big, beautiful week.