Putting yourself first is sacred…and very sexy…
Putting yourself first is actually a very sacred act and a sexy one too.
It’s also a must.
So many women, mothers or not, working or not, are in the habit of putting all their own needs behind everyone else’s in the family. For some, it’s become a habit to be a little bit of a martyr in the household, for others it’s simply survival. But for those who love more than anything to be of service to their families – that is the ultimate act of love and is held in the highest regard. I for one love cooking but hate housework and ironing! And I’m honest about it! We all have to do stuff we don’t like. But this is not what I’m talking about.
We are told time and time again that by giving to others we give to ourselves. This is true. But not if our own tanks are empty. Life’s like a set of complicated cogs and you give each cog a priority above the other.
When we make our own wellbeing and self-care and having fun a priority, that means we are giving to ourselves, making us happy, filling up our tanks, which in turn overflows into energy for our beloveds.
At this moment, I am writing this blog with my four-year-old girl sitting on my knee while my dog watches us. And I’ve spent the last hour or so, working out childcare for work for tomorrow, so I can work around her.
What I do know, is leaving the tank completely empty drains you of vital energy. It can make you sick. It’s the wasteground where forgotten potential lives and it can breed resentment. Being eternally broke and stuck in the same routine can be like hell too. Living out the same old patterns is pretty sh*t and never figuring out what you want is a recipe for an unfulfilled life.
So, do whatever it takes to get your agenda on to the priority leaderboard at least once per week. Whether it’s exercise, a night out, a massage, lunch with the girls, a date out alone or something that just makes you feel good and alive! Time to eliminate the excuses. It’s all about feeling alive!
I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival…’ Audre Lorde
Sacred & Sexy Love,